Freedom From the Work Life Balancing Act

The honest truth is that there really is no work/life balance.  Try as you may, the scale always tips one way or another.  The solution is not to try harder, but to change your mindset.
As I interviewed over 50 small business owners on my Small Business Revival podcast, I asked them how they balance life and work.  The overall response was “It’s a struggle.”
I understand, it is a struggle for me too… especially as I have ventured back into the world of construction.
It is time to think differently.  Rather than trying to “balance” it is time to integrate.
It is time to integrate what is really important to us into a life that is satisfying and we can be proud of.  For most of us, the important areas of our life can be summarized by work, family, community, and self.
Rather than trying to balance these competing demands… seek out activities, work, projects, recreation, initiatives or rest that results in a “4-way” win.  In other words look for ways to do one thing that results in a win for all areas of your life.
Here is an example.  Volunteer with your family to work on a Habitat for Humanity Home…. You will meet new people (networking) which can benefit your work, you spend time with your family, you give back to your community, and you get some exercise which benefits your self.
The more integrated “4-way” wins you can incorporate into your life the more fulfilling life will be.
If you can’t achieve a “4-way” win, then go for a “2-way” win like taking a mid-day walk.  This improves your productivity at work in the afternoon and improves your physical health.
Now get out there and make it happen. Say no to one more activity in the balancing act and do something different.  I know you can do it.

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53: 5 Benefits of Community for the Entrepreneur

Podcast – Show Notes

53: 5 Benefits of Community for the EntrepreneurHave you ever felt alone in the fight?  As Entrepreneurs, it is easy to get so busy and focused on our goals that we don’t cultivate relationship.
The result is a lonely, vulnerable place.  If you choose to stay in that place, you will find your success and impact limited.
[Tweet “”You find your calling when you find your family” – @caleb_campbell“]
However, you have a choice.  You can take action, invest in relationships and change your destiny.
Here is what Solomon had to say about community.
“This is the case of a man who is all alone, without a child or a brother, yet who works hard to gain as much wealth as he can. But then he asks himself, “Who am I working for? Why am I giving up so much pleasure now?” It is all so meaningless and depressing. Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.”

5 Benefits of Community to the Entrepreneur

  1. Someone to share success with
  2. Help when you fall
  3. Keep your hope in face of opposition
  4. Conquer the enemy
  5. Makes you stronger

Complete Show Notes with Clickable Links at www.BrianMininger.com/sbr53

I was Self-Sabotaging My Calling…

I was self-sabotaging my callingHave you ever been there… in that place where you had big visions and dreams, but you just felt stuck?  You felt like you were going around the same mountain?
On one hand, you feel like the external resistance to living your calling is great, but you also know that the greatest resistance is inside of you!
You desire to do great things, make your life count and fulfill the calling that you were created for…. but somehow you stay stuck.
Days go by, seasons go by, you have some success, but then you fall back.  Have you experienced this?  Maybe you are experiencing it now.
What happens if you stay in this place?  Will you get to the end of your life and have regrets? Or, will you get to the end of your life and know that you “left it all on the field”, gave 100% and lived for the Glory of God?
We all have a choice, each and every day about how we live.  Unfortunately, for many years, I made the choice to self-sabotage my success and my calling…
Now, this was not a conscious choice… instead it was a choice brought on by apathy and neglect.  It is not easy for me to admit this.  On the outside, things looked good, but on the inside I was struggling.
Here is what I was experiencing… I would start something new. I would have some success. Then things would get difficult. And, internally I would crumble.  I would get stressed, burn-out, and failure would come.
I would ask myself, “Why?” “Why am I back in this place?”  “Will this ever change?” Have you had those same thoughts?
Then, about 2 years ago, God started leading me on a journey.  It was a journey of growth… it was also a journey of desperation.  I was tired of being stressed out, frustrated and full of internal turmoil every-time life got difficult.  I was tired of my weakness sabotaging my success.
Jim Rohn says, “Don’t wish it was easier, wish you were better. Don’t wish for less problems, wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenge, wish for more wisdom.”
[Tweet “”Don’t wish it were easier, wish you were better.” – Jim Rohn”]
I slowly began to realize that I had to change, I had to grow, I had to get stronger… And that journey began with stripping things away so that I could get healthy.  Somethings, God stripped away, other things I chose to let go of.  Once these things were stripped away, I began a journey to healthy strength.

Here are the 4 areas of health that have transformed my life.

  1. Emotional Health – This was a big one for me and my family.  Because I had lived “without healthy limits” for so long, my emotional health and the health of my family had really suffered.  We were burnt out, and struggling in our relationships.  Through the help of the Emotionally Healthy Leadership Resources developed by Pete Scazzaro, intensive counseling with Father’s Heart Ministries and God’s Grace, we were able to experience restoration in this area of our lives.
  2. Spiritual Health – Because I was so worn out, my relationship with God had suffered.  Therefore, it was time for me to reconnect with Him.  I began starting my day with Bible reading, Prayer and journaling.  These were habits that I had let “fall by the wayside” as life became overwhelming.  As I sought after God and His presence in my life, more than His blessings, my spirit started to come alive again.
  3. Physical Health – For years I had neglected my physical health and my body.  This neglect had resulted in a damaged back that required surgery a few years ago, weight gain and low energy levels. I could not handle difficult situations because my energy levels were constantly low and I didn’t feel good.  I struggled to get through the day.  Through changing my diet, exercising, drinking water, and nutrition supplementation I have transformed my physical health.  I am well on my way to achieving my goal weight of 190 lbs, my energy levels are good and I feel great.
  4. Financial Health – Ever since my construction company failed in bankruptcy in 2009, we have struggled financially.  We carried financial obligations from what happened, tried to maintain our old lifestyle, and hung onto things that we should have let go.  Finally, in desperation we decided to make some hard choices.  We knew we had to get our finances healthy.  Therefore, we have sold many of our belongings, leased out our farm, and started building a direct sales business with Advocare.

Emotional and spiritual health were the focus of 2014.  Physical and financial health are the focus of 2015.  I am so thankful for God’s grace and mercy along this journey.  I am thankful that He has lead us every step of the way… And I am thankful that these changes have brought about strength that allows me to stop self-sabotaging my calling when life gets difficult.
[Tweet “”If you fail under pressure, your strength is too small” – Solomon”]
Can I speak directly to you for a minute?  Maybe you see yourself in my story.  Maybe you have experienced these same struggles.  God wants to help you get healthy so that you can fulfill the greatness He created you for.
It would be easy to read this post and not change.  This journey is difficult, but it is worth it.  You don’t have to walk alone.
If you would like to experience this kind of transformation in your own life, I am here to help. Therefore, I would like to offer you a FREE no strings attached 30 minute coaching call.  Just fill out the form below and I will be in touch to schedule your call.

52: The Parable of the Sower

Harvest 2Do you want to do something great and make a difference with your life?
If you do… then you need to understand the lessons of the Parable of the Sower.  The potential for the impact that we want to have with our lives is contained in the “seed.”  That seed is our message.
Whether you are a non-profit leader, sales professional or small business owner, you have a message to get out.  Often times we get discouraged about the lack of results we see from sowing our seed.
However, if we will understand the Truth contained in the Parable of the Sower, we will have the tools necessary to be successful even when we face struggle.
Then, You will be able to reap a mighty harvest!
Click on the player below to listen to this weeks podcast.

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51: Podcast Show Update 3 – Pursuing Less but Better

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Sometimes less is more.

As a driven “type A” personality… this is hard for me to admit.  However, over time I am learning how to give myself time and space to think.  Every time I take time to evaluate my life I realize that there are ways I can do less, do it better and make a greater impact.
Our lives are constantly filled with new things.  Do you need to consider doing some “pruning” in your life and focus on less so that you can have a greater impact?
Simplicity is powerful!  Why are we so good at making things complex?  These are the questions I am asking myself as I “prune” my life.
In today’s show I share how this thought process is impacting the future of the Small Business Revival Podcast.  As a result of examining how, ” less could be more,”  I have come to the following conclusions.

  1. I will produce 1 show a week instead of 3.  I want to produce a show that is well done.  I am only able to do that if I produce less shows.
  2. I am going to launch a new show that focuses on a smaller audience…. Christians who want to build the Kingdom of God through entrepreneurship, social initiatives, and ministry.

These conclusions have led me to the decision to cease production of the Small Business Revival Podcast and launch a new show.  With that decision comes the need for a new title.  Here are 4 options I am considering.  What are your thoughts?

Potential New Podcast Show Titles

  1. The Brian Mininger Show
  2. Biblical Entrepreneurship Podcast
  3. The Word for World-changers Show
  4. The Solomon Effect Podcast

Share your thoughts or suggestions in the comments or on social media.
God Bless,
Brian
 

You Can't Manage Time!


I know you want your life to count and make an impact for the Kingdom of God!
Therefore, how you use your time matters.  We all have the same amount of time in every day.  Over the course of our lives, we don’t know exactly how much time we will have, and once we waste our time it is gone…
Daily we face the competing demands of those who would like to dictate how we spend our time… we try to balance all the things we want to do with our time… and we find ourselves spending time on things that do not really matter.
When we think about this struggle we inevitably come to the subject of time management.  For years I thought I could manage time.  I read books on this subject, I worked on my schedule… and yet I was still frustrated.
Then, I read a book that changed my thinking on this subject completely, “The Power of Full Engagement.”  This book challenged me to think about how I was managing my energy not my time.  You see, the legacy we leave and the impact we make with our lives is a result of the significant actions that we take.  
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These significant actions are a result of being fully engaged with a high level of energy.  Then… and only then do we take actions that get results.  Trying to maximize every minute of the day without being mindful of our energy levels is a dead end game. We just wear ourselves out and then we are not productive… we are just busy.

“A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit saps a person’s strength.”  – Solomon (Prov. 17:22)

Here are 5 Ways to keep Your Energy Level High

  1. Fully Engage & Fully Disengage – Every elite athlete has times of intense exertion and times of complete rest.  We are only able to achieve this if we engage and disengage.  Therefore, focus on the people or task in front of you.   Eliminate distractions, and be “all in!”
  2. Exercise – Our mental energy for the work that we do is closely tied to the physical energy of our body.  So often, rather than taking care of our body, we abuse it.  Exercise, not only strengthens our body, but it allows us to think and clear our heads.  For me, exercise is like a mental “reset” button.  If I am getting discouraged or mentally struggling, Exercise is the quickest way to bring my mind back to a good place.
  3. Feed Your Mind –  Numerous studies have shown that we are not getting proper nutrition from our diets, even if we eat healthy food.  Through year of mass food production, the nutrients in the soil have been depleted and with it the nutrition content of our fruits and vegetables.  Therefore, we need to supplement our diet with nutrition.  I specifically supplement my diet with nutrition designed to give me energy and mental focus.  This has been life transforming for me.  I can now work through the afternoon without a mental crash.  You can learn more about the products I use by clicking here.
  4. Enjoy Life – Many times in our pursuit of our goals we forget to enjoy life.  Solomon said repeatedly in the book of Ecclesiastes that our toil (work) is meaningless unless we receive the gift of God to enjoy it.  When we enjoy our lives, we gain energy.  I have activities in my life that “energize me” even though they are hard work.  I know you have the same types of activities in your life.  Make sure they are a regular part of your life.
  5. Create Margin – Nothing is designed to operate long term at max capacity.  Whether it is your vehicle engine, stereo speakers, or the hard drive on your computer… these things will fail if they are operated long term at max capacity.  So why do we think we can max out our lives and not fail under the pressure?  Start creating space.  Don’t book your day full.   Practice the Sabbath.  Take time off to rest.  It is time to simplify and create margin in our lives.

The journey to freedom from the time management “rat race” begins with a mindset and focus shift.  From there we move into the hard work of changing our habits.  Don’t get discouraged, you can do this.  You will fall back, but keep moving forward.
You now have a choice… What are you going to do with what you have learned?  You can stay on the same frustrating track of trying to manage your time or you can take action to increase your energy.  I want to help you take action and change your life.  Therefore, I have included a short list of resources to help you maintain a high level of energy in your life.

  • Brian

Resources

  • “The Power of Full Engagement: Managing Energy not Time is the Key to High Performance and Personal Renewal.” – Jim Loehr & Tony Schwartz
  • AdvoCare Spark® is a unique multi-nutrient system that was developed as a nutritional source of energy and enhanced mental focus. It’s a sugar-free with more than 20 vitamins, minerals and nutrients that work synergistically to provide a healthy, balanced and effective source of energy that won’t overburden or over stimulate your body. This amazing product serves as an all-in-one solution that gives you a quick boost of energy that lasts for hours. (From the Advocare Website)
  • AdvoCare Slam® is a powerful, portable energy supplement in a tiny, two-ounce bottle. Its unique combination of energy-producing nutrients and support for neural processes makes it a perfect fit for the person on the go. Portions are easy to control with Slam, so you can drink the whole bottle or half if you prefer. It’s also quick and easy to consume in five amazing flavors. Slam is the perfect choice when quick, convenient results and sustained energy are a must. And unlike many other energy supplements you may find at retail stores, Slam actually tastes great! (From the Advocare Website)
  • The Book of Ecclesiastes by Solomon.  This book of the Bible is the wisdom and reflections on life of Solomon.  Solomon was one of the wealthiest men to every live.  His wisdom and influence was known far and wide, and he was sought out as a consultant by other kings and queens.
  • The Simplified Life.  Our lives are increasingly becoming more complicated and full everyday.  It takes intentional focus to simplify our lives and focus on what really matters

50: Podcast Show Update 2 & Our Saturday Small Business Journey

Good Morning!
On today’s podcast I give a little bit of an update on my thoughts for the podcast as we go forward.  And, I share with you about our Families Saturday journey through the small business landscape of Nelson County, Virginia.
We had an awesome day! It was so much fun and we saw some great places, and met some great people.  (I shared some videos along the way on Facebook)
Here are some of the places that we stopped.
The Batesville Market – Batesville, VA
Nelson Farmers Market – Nellysford, VA
North Garden Equestrian Center – North Garden, VA
Bonus 🙂
Sweet Streets Ice Cream Truck – Stuarts Draft, VA (My Friends New Business)
Family Businesses we purchased from…
Ula Tortilla – Nelson Co. VA
Double H Farm – Nelson Co. VA
Miller Bake Shoppe – Stuarts Draft, VA
I encourage you to take your own local small business journey… and let me know what great places that you find.
 
Brian
 

We found these at the farmers market


Entrance to the Nelson County Farmers Market on a beautiful day!


We had lunch at the Batesville Market in Batesville, VA


 

(Video) God's Amazing Grace to Me

We all struggle and make mistakes. But God’s amazing grace creates a masterpiece out of our imperfections.

49: Small Business Revival Podcast Update

DSC_6691All of life has seasons…

For the last 3 1/2 months I have been in a season of working very hard to publish the Small Business Revival Podcast 3 times a week.
It is time for a season of rest, evaluation and reflection.  Therefore, over the next few weeks I am not going to publish the regular episodes.
Instead, I am going to share with you updates as I go on this journey.  These updates will be more impromptu and recorded on my iPhone as I have time.  I am also going to focus on investing energy in the needs of my family during this time of relocating.
Thank you so much for your listener-ship.  I truly appreciate your support.  During this season I would love to hear from you.  My desire is to serve you.  If you have suggestions, questions, or feedback on the show please email me by clicking here.

“For everything there is a season,
a time for every activity under heaven.
A time to be born and a time to die.
A time to plant and a time to harvest.
A time to kill and a time to heal.
A time to tear down and a time to build up.
A time to cry and a time to laugh.
A time to grieve and a time to dance.
A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones.
A time to embrace and a time to turn away.
A time to search and a time to quit searching.
A time to keep and a time to throw away.
A time to tear and a time to mend.
A time to be quiet and a time to speak.
A time to love and a time to hate.
A time for war and a time for peace.”
Solomon  (Ecclesiates 3:1-8)

 
To get the complete update on the Small Business Revival Podcast, listen to today’s episode below.

46: Bootstrapping It w/ Vince Carter

EP. 46Today’s show is a rebroadcast of my appearance on the Vince Carter’s podcast, ‘Bootstrapping It.’
{Key Takeaway Notes taken from www.BootstrappingIt.com/?p=210}

Key Takeaways

  • Sometimes to move forward we have to move backward.
  • Lessons learned:
      1. Risk of leverage – This risk can be minimized by taking a cyclical instead of straight-line approach to growth
      2. Risk of not concentrating on core business
      3. Pay attention to being in the right place and the right market delivering the right thing
  • As a result of this experience, Brian is committed to bootstrapping his future business endeavors. His current focus is business consulting. His advice for aspiring bootstrappers looking to start a business:
  1. Find your passion (the right niche). Once you find that passion:
  2. Go after it. Be persistent!

 Tweetable Quotes

  • [Tweet “Find your passion (the right niche). Go after it. Be Persistent!”]
  • [Tweet “Sometimes to move forward we have to move backward.”]
  • [Tweet “Pay attention to being in the right place and the right market delivering the right thing”]

Resources

For complete show notes and clickable links go to www.BrianMininger.com/SBR46