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19: Town Hall – Simplifying Life & Business w/ Victoria Mininger

EP. 19In today’s Town Hall meeting, we are doing something different.  My guest is, my beautiful wife, Victoria.  And, we are taking you “behind the scenes” to include you in some of our conversations about life, business and where we are going as a family.  Hopefully, you will be encouraged by our journey as ordinary people, making challenging decisions.

Key Takeaways

  • Simplifying Life allows us to focus on what really matters.
  • Simplifying schedules involves our work as well as our family schedules.
  • Leaning into the discomfort helps you push through it.
  • To move into the best things, sometimes we have to let go of good things.
  • Our personal lives spill over and affect our businesses.
  • We need to run our business, not let our business run us.

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For complete show notes and clickable links go to www.BrianMininger.com/SBR19
 
 
 
 
 

You Don't Have to Leave Your Family to Go to Work!

How is that possible you ask?

For years, I did not think it was possible either.  I, just like most Americans, had been programmed to believe that the only way to earn a living was to get up everyday and “leave for work.”
Therefore, I did what I knew to do… I got a job and went to work.  Then I started my own business and functioned very much the same way. My work expanded to fit the “allotted work week” and my expenses expanded to meet what I could earn in that period of time.  The result, was a stretched thin life with no margin that resulted in me responding “busy” to anyone that asked “How are you doing?”
Family Business
I bet you have been there.  Most of us still are there.  However, this is a recent phenomenon.  For most of the history of the world people did not function this way.  They and their families worked together in “family businesses.”  Then, the industrial revolution needed people to work in the factories…  Schools were structured to prepare people for factory work and our routine changed.
In yesterday’s podcast, Tommy and I talked about Family Business, Homeschooling, and lifestyle.  As Tommy put it, “The Family is under attack!”  I believe it is possible to get off the rat-race and live differently.  Our family has committed to living simply, and working together to earn our living.  This lifestyle will provide us the margin to invest time and money in the things that really matter to us…. our relationships and making a difference in our community.
Making this a reality is not easy… even for us.  We recently made the hard decision for Victoria to put in her notice at Liberty University.  She is transitioning to join me in the business and build her own business The Simplified Office.   These decisions are hard, we prayed a lot, had peace about the decision, and have a plan… but there is still fear.
What if the business doesn’t grow?  What if the revenue doesn’t come in?  Were we crazy?   We have asked all these questions… but at the end of the day, we just know that it is worth it.
It is possible for you too.  Maybe your discouraged.  I pray that today you will see a spark of possibility that motivates you to move toward a better future.  It isn’t easy… but it is possible.  Others have done it before.
If you know someone else who needs this encouragement, please forward them this message and share the episode on social media.
Here’s to your Success!
Brian

Strengthen Your Marriage Through Confession & Healing

Today’s Post is a guest post from Justin Davis of Refine-Us Ministries.
Justin and his wife Trisha know all too well the dangers of settling for an ordinary marriage. Their own failure to recognize the warning signs almost resulted in the end of their marriage, their family, and their ministry.
Justin and Trisha are bloggers, authors, speakers and founders of RefineUs Ministries. Sharing their story of pain, loss and redemption, RefineUs is igniting a movement to build healthy marriages and families.
They are the co-authors of their first book, Beyond Ordinary: When a Good Marriage Just Isn’t Good Enough, published by Tyndale House Publishers.
I believe that through this post you will be challenged and encouraged to strive of an extraordinary marriage.


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When Trisha and I first got married and entered ministry in 1995, I prided myself on being a person that was accountable. I was accountable in my choices: I wouldn’t counsel with a woman behind a closed office door; I wouldn’t give a teenage girl a ride home from church without another person in the car. I wouldn’t do lunch with a female without my wife or another male staff member. At all costs I wanted to be accountable.
When we started Genesis Church in 2002, I knew that accountability would be of utmost importance. I sought out a guy in our core group and asked him if we could meet each Wednesday morning to “hold each other accountable.” As a church planter, I had a church planting coach. He and I would meet every Thursday morning and he would ask me questions about my relationship with God. He would ask me questions about my marriage, my struggles, my weaknesses. He wanted to hold me accountable. Eventually I had a group of Elders I met with once a month who were the spiritual leaders of our church, and I was accountable to them.
So with all of these boundaries and all of these safe guards and all of these great leaders and friends holding me accountable how could I ever be unfaithful to God and my wife? That’s not possible right? But I was unfaithful, despite all of my accountability.

ACCOUNTABILITY CAN BE USELESS

Accountability is only as valuable as the transparency you and I offer in the context of that accountability. I was just transparent enough to make people believe I was authentic. I was as honest as it was comfortable. I knew how to admit weaknesses and struggles that were socially acceptable and would score me religious points.
Why do we hide so easily?

  • Fear of rejection.
  • Fear of judgment.
  • Fear of the consequences of honesty.
  • Fear of losing a relationship.

No decision made in fear is ever healthy.

Andy Stanley said, “We fear the consequences of confession because we have yet to realize the consequences of concealment.”

I think that’s why James says in 5:16, “ Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.”
We don’t talk about the “healing” type of confession in the Church very often. In fact, we have built a religious system that tries to find healing through hiding our sins, not confessing them. The sins we do confess are safe sins: bitterness, jealousy, materialism, selfishness.
For years, I forfeited the healing that God longed to bring to my heart not because I didn’t confess my sins to Him; but because I refused to confess them to anyone else.
Temptation loses its power when we confess. 
Sin loses its ability to keep us fractured when we confess. 
Addictions lose the control they have in our lives when we confess. 
In order to not go back to sharing “just enough to look accountable” I am consistently asking myself these questions as I attempt to be transparent…maybe they will help you today:

1. AM I TELLING THE ENTIRE TRUTH RIGHT NOW?

Shading the truth is easy. Exaggerating is often unnoticeable. As I am telling any story, but especially a story about myself, I want to always ask, “Am I telling the entire truth right now? Am I leaving anything out or adding anything to this story? Am I lying when the truth will do?”

2. AM I SHARING DETAILS THAT WILL MAKE ME LOOK MORE SPIRITUAL THAN I REALLY AM?

You know how this rolls…we share parts of our heart with someone and 100% of our motivation is to show them how “close to God” we are. We want them to think of us as spiritual; we want to appear put together; we want to settle any doubt they may have about our relationship with God.

3. AM I TELLING MYSELF THE TRUTH?

Sometime the person I need to be the most honest with is myself. I can deceive myself easier than anyone else. If I can’t be honest with myself, then I’m incapable of being honest with others.
God knew that we would need two things to live in freedom in this life: the burden-bearing love of one another and the power of God through prayer. Confess your sins to one another and pray for each other…so that you may be healed. 
Will living this way be easy? No. Will it be worth it? More than you could ever imagine.

Justin and Trisha Davis
RefineUs Ministries

6 Keys to Growing Your Business AND Your Marriage

Brian and VictoriaAs I talk with clients, friends and family members who are business owners, there is one struggle that I hear often.  How do you balance the demands of work and family.  We all face this.  We are passionate about our businesses and we love our families.  Both our businesses and our families make demands of us.  These competing demands often strain our most valuable earthly relationship, our marriage.
I have a confession to make.  In this post I am not really going to talk about growing your business.  I have written plenty of posts about that.  Today I am writing about marriage.


[inlinetweet prefix=”” tweeter=”@brianmininger” suffix=””]You can have all the business success in the world, but if your marriage is falling a part at home, it will feel very empty.[/inlinetweet]


So how do we have a healthy balance?  How do we grow not only our business, but our marriage too?  In this post I am going to share with you some of the things that have helped me grow a business and have a great marriage.

6 Keys to Growing a Business AND Your Marriage

  • Create a Work Schedule With Your Spouse – Years ago Victoria and I figured out that most of the struggle about how much I worked, came from differing expectations.  Therefore, we created a practice of coming up with my work schedule together.  Then if I needed to work outside of those hours, I consulted with her before I made any commitments.
  • Invest Time and Money in Both Your Business and Your Marriage – You invest lots of time and money to grow your business.  Make sure you are doing the same thing for your marriage.  Go out on dates, take time away together, read a marriage book, attend a marriage conference, or get some counseling.  If your marriage is not growing, it will be dying.  As soon as you stop investing in your marriage, it begins to die.
  • Communicate With Your Spouse About Your Business – Talk with your spouse about what is happening in your business and how it is affecting you.  Your business is a significant area of your life.  If you don’t talk about it with your spouse, you are missing out on living that part of life together.
  • Involve Your Spouse in the Business – When your business is successful, it benefits your family.  View the business as a team effort.  Even if your spouse does not work for the business, there are many small ways that they can be involved and contribute.  Make sure you give that opportunity.
  • Be All In – Practice being fully engaged with whatever you are doing at the moment.  When you are working on your business, give it your best. When you are on a date with your wife, give her your best.  Turn off the cell phone and focus on your spouse.  Many times with struggle in our marriage, because we are so distracted that we never fully engage.
  • REMEMBER – Your Business is to Serve Your Life and Family Not the Other Way Around – This is the key.  Keep your priorities in line.  If your life and family are existing to serve your business, then it is time to make a change.  Take a step back, examine what is really important and set some boundaries.

Having a great marriage takes courage, intentional investment and hard work, but the rewards are great.  Start by taking a small step.  Discuss these keys with your spouse and see what he/she has to say.  You will learn and lot and be well on your way to growing your business and having a great marriage.

What things have your learned about growing a business and having a great marriage?

Share your thoughts in the comments

 
-Brian